Friday, March 28, 2008


Ever try to stick the "wrong" ends of a magnet together? It can't be done.

Ever try to do that for years?

It still can't be done.

Ever get so damn tired of trying to do the impossible, you go into a full blown meltdown/breakdown/mid-life crisis?

You know there is a universal law that says, like attracts like?

Did you know that I am not stronger than a UNIVERSAL LAW?

I didn't know that.

Now I do.

If one more person marvels at my strength I will commit a homicide.

I am not strong.

I am stubborn.

I am tenacious.

I am unrelenting.

But I am not strong.

Strong people recognize impossibilities and don't kill themselves over them.

That is strong.


Terry Whitaker said...

Just this morning in the shower I was thinking how there are certain people in your life in which verbal communication is so easy--like shorthand. While with others, it's this laborious and continuous process to be understood and to understand. It doesn't mean your love for those people is less, but my lord the process is exhausting.

I. Hear. You.

Drama Mama said...

I freakin' love this post. Printing it up and hanging it over my desk.

I swear, Carrie, every time I read one of your posts, it makes me wish that I could drink my morning coffee with you. Every day of my life.

Well, maybe that's extreme.

But what I'm trying to say is that you are good for my soul.

Michelle O'Neil said...



and more Love.

Jenny said...

Ever try to do that for're funny.

You are strong!

Amber said...

Oh jeez. Amen.

Don't I know it, sister. ;)

Walking away is so much harder than living a pattern that you hardly have to think about.


Anonymous said...

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riversgrace said...

Profound distinction. That's something to be with.

kario said...

I call bullsh*t. Sorry, but you are strong. Strength is not only perseverence, but knowing when to bend and when to stand tall and fight.

You have such a unique gift for combining love, strength, wisdom and vulnerability. That is who you are and why I love you so much. Now, accept the fact that you ARE a strong person and deal with it. ;-)

Deb said...

Ditto Kari. And so now what do you do with this discernment and wisdom? Love to you.

Jerri said...

You ARE strong, my girl. Whether you like it or not. But sometimes, strength is not what is required.

We saw this play out over and over when Evan was small. Just crawling, really. If he encountered an obstacle—his little scooter, let's say—he pushed and pushed, screamed in frustration, and fought to make that scooter move. His little head down and his shoulders cocked, his determination was a wonder to see.

He could have crawled around the scooter. He could have gone left or right or even back a few paces. Instead, he fought an impossible fight until we moved the scooter or redirected his path.

Strength was not the issue. Perseverance, even when remarkable, is not always an asset. Sometimes, task selection is the key.

Love to you. Only love.

Seeker said...


I get it! I hear the same thing from people who look at my life, and my feeling is pretty similar.

Strong? Nope. Stubborn? Absolutely.

For me strength would be not feeling that terror in my stomach every time something new goes wrong. Me? I have no choice but to go one, no matter what...two kids are depending on me for everything. But deep inside, I am a little kid myself, wish someone would come and take over the whole mess!