Sunday, August 13, 2006

Why is it so much easier to say, "Love you," than "I love you."? Why? The difference is in a one-letter word, one letter, not even a consonant, just a poor little ol' vowel. Why the big difference in difficulty? I feel the hesitancy to throw the "I" in there myself, yet always wonder why. What's under that hesitancy, that holding back, that piece of commitment that you reserve for later?
My son, *Rojo, he tells just about everyone he meets that he loves them. "I love you! Don't forget!" He cheerfully exclaims. He doesn't stall for a moment, there is always the "I" in his pronouncements. I've been told my son has a soul like the Dalai Lama's, almost pure, that he has no ego. I think the answer lies within this concept. I am thinking that it is our ego that keeps us from using "I". When you use that I, you are committed. You are putting yourself out on a limb. You are a taking a risk, a chance, you are completely vulnerable. You might get hurt. You might get rejected. You might be embarrassed, or sorry, then what. What can you do then? The "I" is already out there, too late to pull it back in.
If none of us had egos, what would the world look like? Big question, no answer, for we are so ego based as humans, for the most part. Imagine, though, if you will, how different your life would be if you operated from your higher self at all times, and zero from an ego stand point.
I love you.
* No, my son's name is not Rojo, that is his nickname. No, I don't go around naming my children the Spanish names of colors, but if I did, my daughter would be Verde.


Suzy said...

I love you.

Suzy said...
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Carrie Wilson Link said...

I love you too, Miss Suzy!

Anonymous said...

maybe the same people who have a hard time saying the "I" also have a hard time hearing it, like maybe they don't deserve it?

that's how these sort of things work...critical of others because they feel so flawed...unforgiving of others because they feel unforgivable...unloving to others because they feel unlovable

Anonymous said...

no lacking of I here. I like to say it when I give hugs. I put that I love you right into their ear at the exact moment they can feel me holding them tight. It's like a little secret that goes right into them and can not ever escape

Accept the I and you will eventually feel worthy of it.

Michelle O'Neil said...

Hmmmm....? I never thought about this consciously but what you say is true. There is a pull. A big difference between adding the "I" and not. Love ya....meaning you are loved (general) vs. I love you (specific).

I'll be thinking about this for a long time!

Jenny Rough said...

I have pondered this so many times because "Love you," is such a common saying in my family.

You always pick such great blog topics! Keep it up!

Go Mama said...

I love you. Too.

Terry Whitaker said...

Since we're all so competitive in my family--I'll say what we say-- I love you more!

Elisabeth said...

My partner and I have a game we play.

I love you more than.....and we fill it in.

Examples: all the green things in the world
all the chocolate I have ever eaten or hope to eat
all the times I've been wrong

after so long together, we haven't run out of them.

jennifer said...

I suspect you drop the I because you move so fast...see...I love you takes just a little longer, makes the "bump" and your New York time, fully caffeinated go girl self will have none of that.

It's a theory and I get this because we are one in the you!!!

carrie Junkie said...

I love you! Do not FORGET...and...just so I have my bases covered...'luv you...even faster....

Carrie Wanna Be said...

I really love this post and love how your mind works and how you can convey an idea so concisely!

Love you and love this blawg. What did I do before you came into my world???? I shudder to imagine.

Back At'cha said...

Ohhhhh...what got deleted up there by Ms. Suzy Cutie???

Paulie Ana said...

Imagine there’s no Heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
John Lennon
You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one

Suzy said...

Nothing bad was deleted,honest, but in my usual spastic style I hit the publish button twice.

Anonymous said...

Paulie Ana is really getting a little to Paulie Ana don't we think!?

Anonymous said...

Rojo is a gift from your higher power, don't forget.

Sandra said...

I agree that that one little word is powerful in "Love you" vs "I love you". I readily say "I love you" to those whose mutual love is established with me. I might say it to someone who doesn't say it back, like my father who has yet to reply with the same after 42 years(no issues here, he loves me, just one of those people who can't say the words). But in friendships that are budding or new, I can't always bring myself to put the "I" in at first. It is a risk, as you said. While I am often the first to say the full sentence in this case, there is definitely a buffer zone without the "I" in the beginning. I find it easier to say it aloud than to write it. Perhaps in writing it's yet another level of commitment. I do think that these three words are not to be taken lightly.