Monday, August 24, 2009
If you want a concrete example of how much your life has changed, moved forward and on, just get a new address book. Mine was literally falling apart at the seams, and I am unwilling to go all electronic, so I bought a bright and shiny new one. It's green and blue and holds the promise of spring.
Over the course of several days I looked over the addresses in the old book and decided which ones would move with me to the new one. Lots of scraps of paper were stuffed in and around the old book, Post-It notes, too. Again I carefully evaluated which of those were part of the me going forward, versus the old me I was actively choosing to leave behind.
I was struck by all the name changes; some due to divorce, some due to actually changing a name, and a life, from past to future.
And the deaths. No longer Doug and Kelly, just Doug. No longer Ike and Verneice, just Verneice. No longer, no longer, no longer.
The additions brought great joy: fellow bloggers, special needs moms, spiritual seekers, new friends.
I am done now. My new address book holds about the same number of names the old one held, but the difference is the names that are in there now are all my people. My kin. My tribe.
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