Monday, July 03, 2006

NOT ENOUGH HAS BEEN MADE...
My dear, dear friend, Terry, a.k.a. "Toeless in Philly", taught me the best expression years ago, and I pretty much use it excessively to this day. It all started when I was visiting her across the country, we'd been up late at night laughing our heads off. The next morning she said, "Hey, not enough has been made about ____________", whatever it was. That started a whole new round of riotous laughter, and began a habit of making sure we got the attention we needed from the other.
I've taken this lesson, and the phrase, and applied it to everything. It works so well. It's a funny way of telling someone that they didn't give you what you needed, even if what you needed was pathetic and embarrassing. My husband uses it too.
"Not enough has been made over the fact that I emptied the dishwasher and re-loaded it." To which I reply exactly as he needs me to, "You are right. Not enough has been made. You are like the world's best dishwasher emptier and re-filler. Thank you. You rock. You are #1 husband."
It sounds silly, but let's face it, we sometimes need lavish praise. What's wrong with identifying the need, then directly asking for it? It's pretty painless to give, and with the element of humor involved, it's actually fun.

9 comments:

Terry Whitaker said...

The timing of this could NOT have been more appropriate or necessary. Thank you, you totally rock. You are the best friend anyone could ever have. I love you tons--and miss you. Love Terry

Wanda Tucker said...

How cool...and wonderfully playful. What a great way to let ourselves be known...even our pathetic little selves that need stroking for the mundane.

Thanks.

Michelle O'Neil said...

Not enough has been made about how fricking funny you are!

Reverse Stalker said...

Hey, I posted that too...oh well, here goes. Not enough have been made about what a riot you are! It was better when I was first!!!

Jenny Rough said...

Love this -- I'll give it a try today.

Learning Lollipops said...

I'm with Jenny,
I'm going to make it a point to say this daily as many times as I can remember to see what the reactions will be!

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Laura E. Goodin said...

I blush to say I'm more than a bit less subtle. "I wish to be admired for doing so many dishes." "I wish to be admired for mowing the lawn." "I wish to be admired for writing over 2,000 words today." (Alas, that last one is all too seldom heard....)