Friday, June 19, 2009


NO REGRETS

In yesterday's post about the widening gap between Rojo and his "typical" peers, I mentioned that Rojo will need help with the burning-of-the-regrets portion of the 7th grade retreat he'll be attending in September.

Because he won't have any.

Been thinking about that ever since, and as Michelle O'Neil said in her comment, "I'd say a person who lives with no regret has already gone further than most."

The Dalai Lama says this: "Guilt, as experienced in Western culture, is connected with hopelessness and discouragement and is past-oriented. Genuine remorse, however, is a healthy state of mind - it is future-oriented, connected with hope, and causes us to act, to change."

Rojo doesn't have any regrets, guilt, OR remorse, and maybe if I hang with him long enough, neither will I.

10 comments:

Wanda said...

Go get me a spoon.

jess said...

the Dalai Lama has so much to teach us .. but it's our kids who SHOW us, don't they? EVERY damn day.

new slogan, ginger ..

no accidents. no regrets.

just love.

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

Yes, Rojo is the real teacher. Love that photo, btw.

pixiemama said...

HH is really onto something there.

A friend and I are always shaking our heads at our boys, saying we want to be just like them when we grow up. They say what they mean, do what they want, like what they like. I want to be just like that when I grown up.

The universe knew exactly what it was doing when it gave me Foster. Exactly.

Angie Ledbetter said...

*Pass me a ladle b/c a spoon just ain't big enough* :)

Jerri said...

Wanda stole my comment.

kario said...

So long as you and STM continue to realize that this continuum on which the 7th graders exist isn't a heirarchy. It just is. Even though theres a gap, it doesn't mean that those other students are "above" Rojo, just somewhere else.

Love you guys. Love the picture. Makes me miss that lovely healing place you've got in Sisters.

Michelle O'Neil said...

Love.

She said...

I'll take a spoon too!

Crystal said...

Wow! Sometimes the kids know what we don't...