Tuesday, October 21, 2008


TO BE FAIR...

He married a conservative. He's now married to a bleeding heart liberal.

He married a Christian. He's now married to a Buddhist.

He married someone with perky boobs. He's now married to someone with pendulums.

He married someone with a promising career. He's now married to someone that hasn't made a nickel in I don't know how long.

He married someone that promised to learn golf, tennis and skiing. He's now married to someone that refuses on all accounts.

He married someone that thought she'd be okay sitting beside him on the couch as he channel surfed. He's now married to someone that needs three rooms between her and all surfing activity.

My old high school teacher said,"Women marry men hoping they'll change, and they don't. Men marry women hoping they won't change, and they do."

He was right.



* Photo from www.giftsbyprovintech.com

18 comments:

Kathryn said...

Wow. That's a pretty wise statement. I can relate. I've changed so much too...he hasn't... and I'm right there with you on the space between the tv and you. It did not bother me when we first met, now I need a lot of silence and the tv makes me postal.

Jerri said...

Change is good. STM can say lots of things, I'm sure. But he cannot say it's been boring, can he?

Special Needs Mama said...

That's brilliant.

Wanda said...

Wow. I am impressed with both of you. It is that time of the relationship for individuation and autonomy. You go!

Suzy said...

To be fair, he married someone he truly loved.

Angie Ledbetter said...

I can relate, although many of my "switches" have been opposite of yours. ;) My DH (Deer Hunter) and I both have points and perspectives we've changed (including the ones once on my chest), but the important thing is that we're still in it together. Growing/changing = vibrant, evolving relationships.

Michelle O'Neil said...

Touche'

Jamie said...

Lots and lots of changes... only married three years so far I haven't changed all that much...

Terry said...

You nailed it!

Lori said...

Exactly! The second time around I married someone I loved exactly as he was. It's so much better this way!

Deb said...

And yet somehow there is a core of love that keeps the heartbeat going. It's the changes that keeps things alive (if they don't kill of course).

1933margaret said...

Change is a beautiful thing and you both are blessed.

pixiemama said...

Yes, we are there too.
Highs and lows.
Not often fair.
I, too, have changed radically... but somehow not. I once tried to change to make us happier. We were not. This marriage thing. Oy. Weddings make me cry, and I always find myself thinking of the bride "She has no idea."

deb said...

Amen sister.

Jenny said...

I have a feeling your sense of humor has been with you all along. And that's a great thing!

An Imperfect Perfection said...

Absolutely LOVE It!

Anonymous said...

Which teacher said that? I have a few guesses. Sorry to comment on such a late post. I'm catching up after being gone for a while.

Carrie Wilson Link said...

Anon.,

It was Keegan - he was/is responsible for many of my most important lessons!