Tuesday, March 06, 2007

"Sisters" by Ali Golkar


A theme in my life I'm realizing.

I have no blood sisters, but I'm rich in sisters of the heart.

My mom has a sister, my aunt, a second mother to me.

That aunt has three daughters, sisters, my "as good as" sisters.

We have a home we can use in the tiny town of Sisters. My retreat house. My writing space. My place of rest.

I've always been drawn to friends from big families, especially families with lots of sisters.

I have two sisters-in-law that I love like sisters.

I joined a sorority in college for the sisterhood. I loved living with 60 other girls. Loved it. Loved the closeness, intimacy, growing up together atmosphere.

I swore if I ever had a daughter I'd give her a sister. Didn't work out that way, hope she finds the kind of pseudo-sisters I've always been able to find.

The only friendships I'm interested in having these days, are the sister-like ones. The I don't care what I look or smell like around you kind. The stay up all night talking kind, the call at 2:00 in the morning when there's a problem kind. The go to the doctor with you for the scary appointment kind. The lingerie and high heel shopping kind. The let's talk about sex kind. The let's talk about depression kind. The let's not talk at all but don't move an inch kind. The I love you every day, all day long, my whole life kind. The love period kind.


Suzy said...

Hey Sister! Great post.

Terry Whitaker said...

The "chosen" ones can be even better than the "given" ones.

Kim Meisner said...

I am pinching myself at how lucky I am to have a new sister like you. The absolute very best kind.


Prema said...

Love this, Carrie. Deeply. The last paragraph gave me chills. Can't think of a better gift to yourself and your daughter. Ditto Kim. Love.

Ziji Wangmo said...

Luvin' this post, Sister! You really captured it all in the last paragraph. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing better than your bestest girlfriend...or girlfriends.

kario said...

They are the best, aren't they? Those people you can be whomever you are with. Those people who expect no apologies and will come clean you up at the drop of a hat or giggle with you until you both lose control of your bladder. Glad you have them (and I'm honored to consider you one of mine).


Jerri said...

I'm with Terry. The chosen ones can be even better.

I choose you. Reminds me of something Rojo once said cause I'd choose you every time.


Deb said...

How lucky for us to be able to choose sisterhood and to find it so deeply satisfying. Thank you for showing me the possibilities. Love, Deb

Jess said...

Awesome post, I love it. Beautiful. I always wanted sisters. But I think I'm doing OK now!

So... I wonder if you'd consider promoting me from niece to little sister.... ? ;)

Nancy said...

Those of us without blood sisters create and treasure them. I have told this to my daughter who, as youngest of four and the only girl, shall remain sisterless as well. It's teh recipe for powerful, fulfilling friendships.

jennifer said...

We are building the perfect sisterhood!

Wendee Holtcamp said...

I love your blog - got here from Jennifer Lauck's blog. I am from OR originally... my dad works at the Portland Food Bank :) Anyway, I'm now in TX. I was wondering if you would mind if I quote your whole paragraph on my blog, because I LOVE. (period) IT.!!!! I am dealing with mom and brother issues, and friend issues, but also have amazing wonderful friends who are lifelong and kind and forgiving and I just love the sentiment. This is the one: "The only friendships I'm interested in having these days, are the sister-like ones. ..."(to the end) Email me at bohemian@wendeeholtcamp.com :)