Monday, February 16, 2009


It's one thing to be "okay" with gay marriage, it's another thing to encourage it.

I encourage it.

Maybe it's because I just feel, Why not? Where's the harm?

Maybe it's because I have a dear friend that wasn't allowed to marry his true love, so he had some sham of a marriage just to stay in the country - got caught, then deported, and is now separated from his "husband" by thousands of miles and a very large ocean.

Maybe it's because I feel of all the things we need to "crack down on," in this country, tearing people apart that love and are committed to one another, is simply not one of them.

But probably it's because if it was okay to be someone born in 1921 and be gay, and fall in love and then marry someone of your same sex and then have children, my own childhood would have been very different.

And happier.

And so much less confusing.

And so much healthier.

Over and over I hear, "I just feel sorry for the children," when speaking of gay unions.

I'm here to tell you, those aren't the ones you need to feel sorry for.


Deb Shucka said...

Any time love is honored over fear we all win. Any time fear is allowed to drive decisions we all pay in suffering. Beautifully written post.

Terry said...


Wanda said...

And what ever happened to separation of church and state? In many countries, people are first married by the "state" and then they go to the church for their "sacramental" wedding.

There is no such thing as "separate but equal"...not even in gender separated dressing rooms.

Amber said...

Amen, babe. Oh, and then there is that little CIVIL RIGHTS of American citzens, issue. There is always that.

And as far as "the children" go, I am in for encouraging stability and family. It always kills me when people don't get that keeping gay people from being able to create legal and stable homes for the kids they have, and will have, hurts all of us.

Such crap.


Angie Ledbetter said...

It's such a hard issue for so many, isn't it? But if you have family members who suffer the prejudices, it hurts.

courtneywrites said...

Wonderful, Carrie. xoxox

shawn said...

The Minister who baptised me lived with his same sex partner for over 50 years ... it was briefly an issue for our faith community - but wisdom, grace, care and a realization that BEFORE anyone knew he has been a good and loyal servant to the Church and to faith ... the shock and outrage passed and acceptance replaced such sentiments ...

But ... when the partner died, he was alone ... our beloved Minister was in the hospital and not able to grieve his partner, lover and friend.

I have always felt THAT moment was the abomination in the eyes of God: that after 50 years the end of the partnership couldn't be mourned, not that the partnership existed at all.

Thank you for a thoughtful, heart-felt post.

Maybe one day our world will be guided by love and grace rather than fear ...

Fully Still In a Mood said...

I feel sorry for the homophobes.

It must feel terrible being so repressed.

jesswilson said...

amen .. i've never understood the fear, never will.

as my older daughter said when she was not yet seven, 'love can never be wrong, mama, NEVER.'

kario said...

You got it goin' on, my friend. I agree completely!

Jess said...

Thank you. :)