Wednesday, June 09, 2010





THE MAGIC BENCH


Wrote recently about playground miracles. Am almost embarrassed to tell you this, but they just keep happening, and happening, and happening. Feeling like it's being revealed to me why Rojo is so insistent that he, Flicka and I go to the park every night: we have work to do.

Rojo performs his magic on the play structure, delighting the 4-8 year-old set, and Flicka makes it possible for me to meet people I would not otherwise meet.

Other day Rojo and I couldn't find any other kids to play with at Park #1, so we walked down to Park #2. There was a mom and her daughter swinging on the only two swings. Rojo and I took the teeter-totter. Pretty soon the little girl left the swing and came over to us. That turned into her teetering her 7-year-old self with Rojo's tottering nearly 14-year-old self, and me trying to balance the two out, with some degree of success.

Off the teeter-totter and on to tag, the mom and I were left to talk. She started asking about Flicka, and next thing I knew I was telling her all about how we got her. That story has a couple of versions, the just-the-facts one, that's not bad, really, and the woo-woo one complete with every no accident detail. I went for version #2.

"That's what happens when you put it out into the universe, the universe rises up to enfold you" she said.

I knew I'd found a friend.

We talked for two hours, don't you know it, New Friend has a child with special needs. We eventually moved back to Park #1 when my friend, Above and Beyond called to say she'd brought the ice cream "truck" down there. I introduced New Friend to Above and Beyond, and after I left, they did more talking and sharing of resources.

The other day I was at Park #1 and I noticed something going on with each of the kids that were chasing him in a rollicking game of hot lava monster. All these years I've been bringing him to the park thinking he was the only one with special needs, and just assuming everyone else was neuro-typical.

Can't believe this far into the game I still don't have the Make No Assumptions thing figured out.

One thing I have  figured out is that Rojo, Flicka and I will continue to go down there and play, as long as there is a bench to sit on.

And to listen.


* Photo from: terraformearth.files.wordpress.com

18 comments:

fullsoulahead.com said...

Rojo is doing exactly what he's supposed to do, and you are his blessed mother, allowing him.

I love it.

Amber said...

I love this. You need to know that where ever you go, God will use you. You are special like that.

:)

Anonymous said...

So freakin' cool!

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

I love what New Friend said. Another kindred spirit!

jess said...

Oh, Carrie. This is everything I love about you and Rojo all in one place. I will read this again. And again. And again. Thank you both.

Tabitha Bird said...

I love this story. makes me smile. It is amazing what a park can reveal hey :)

Southern GFCF said...

I would love to read more about the "woo woo" Flicka story. My daughter, Miss B, has a service dog, and autism and seizures.

Ask Me Anything said...

ditto, Jess.

Deb Shucka said...

This is all because of your willingness to accept, to surrender and to pay attention. I hope you'll keep sharing these stories. I like being covered in goose bumps.

Jenny said...

Love it.

Jerri said...

"...the Universe rises to enfold you."

Amen. May it ever be so.

Wanda said...

Heh heh heh.

Anonymous said...

That's a great story. I love it when special moments like these make it so clear that we can't chalk everything up to coincidence. Glad you made a new friend. Your park visits sound lovely.

Pie Maker said...

It's very clear to me that I need to take Piper to more parks! You two inspire me.

Anonymous said...

I don't know why but I'm always amazed that there is still so much to learn. I guess I'm thankful I'm still learning.

Lola said...

The park is a powerful place!
xo

kario said...

I am predicting a glorious summer for the three of you.

Drama Mama said...

My favorite moment on this? That you were on the teeter totter with Rojo.

I want to live where he is.